Small Acts: Monthly Birthdays

Randi from Swoon is with us today to continue in the spirit of sharing small acts of love with our children this Valentine’s season and throughout the year. I love her idea of carving out special one-on-one time with each of our children…

In this busy, multitasking, multimedia world, chances are you don’t feel like you’re getting enough one on one time with your child. Whether you have one child or ten, it’s hard to give them the individual attention they need every day of the year. With the addition of a second child to our family, and then a third, daily life can be chaotic. Our schedule is no longer based on the needs of only one child, but is more focused on shared activities and the family as a whole.  I’ve noticed a longing to get to know each my children in a  more meaningful way, outside of our normal routine.


This year we’ve decided to start the tradition of “monthly birthdays,” in which we take our two oldest children out, one by one, on the day they were born each month (or the nearest convenient time).  As opposed to their actual Birthday, there are no presents or parties involved, just quality time and uninterrupted focus from one or both parents.

We’ve only just begun, but it’s fun to think of activities to do with each child. It could be something as simple as sharing a treat or taking a special trip to the park (unlimited pushes on the swing!). I can already tell this is going to become a cherished tradition in our home, in this season and beyond.

If your child could have all of your attention for an outing each month, what would they choose?




Randi Edwards is a regular contributor to Playful Learning, who specializes in crafts for kids. She also manages our wonderful contributors and helps to make this a beautiful place with a little design magic. She puts her passion for daydreaming to work over at her blog, Swoon where she shares ideas, original projects, and favorite things. She loves to laugh and considers herself a lifelong student. She lives in Seattle with her husband and three young children, and strives to make her home a beautiful, playful, and accessible place to grow up.



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  1. I think this is a great idea, and we try to do this often with our kids (even having individualized time spent with one child/parent while running errands, good talking happens). Sometimes we just go for walks, or sometimes, like above, is a shared little snack that is special. Another fun thing was to go to a book store and buy a book they chose. 🙂
    Sarah M

  2. Mariah,  It was so lovely to meet you at Alt and discuss creative learning and raising kids that love to eat daringly!!  I will definitely be frequenting your site once my little one makes his appearance and grows a little older.  Take care, Becky

  3. This is a lovely idea! And I so identify with that desire to know each child’s heart. 

    AND I have two daughters, ages 3 & 5, and am due with our third in August!

  4. What a lovely tradition! At the moment I’m still home full time with my two children (2 and 6 month old) so I have the honor to spend loads of time with them. I guess my oldest would choose the swing or just holding him high and flying around the living room. My daughter on the other hand loves to take a bath so maybe that would be her fave activity with me.

  5. This is such a great idea. I only have one right now – and she is a baby – so it’s not an issue right now; but I hope to have more in the future and will have to remember this! I am the oldest of five children, and I absolutely loved the one-on-one time I spent with my father, even though it was usually only on the car ride home from school or an activity. We would talk about our days and listen to music together. I don’t think it was purposeful – it’s just the way the schedule worked out – but now that I think about it, that time with him meant a lot to me and helped keep us close.

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